These books have really helped me mentally and has shown me a different perspective on life itself. Are you worried about not making progress or are you worried about the people you associate yourself with and your surroundings? Thinking on how to start a business? How to build up self-confidence? Most importantly, how do I grow? It's all in the Bible (the purple book) most especially the Book of Proverbs and the second book which is "THE 15 INVALUABLE LAWS OF GROWTH". They emphasize the principles on how to live a healthy, successful and positive life. To be honest, You can't change what's going on around you until you start changing what's going on within you and that's where growth stems from. Growth doesn't just happen overnight. It's a gradual process and you MUST be willing to change!!! If you are surrounded by people who do not have the same core values as you do and you do not benefit anything in return, why stay? Best believe, when I use the word "benefit", it has nothing to do with financial resources but intangible feelings that resonate deep in one's mind; your soul.
Surrounding yourself with people who genuinely have your best interest at heart, send positive vibes your way, who make you feel anything is possible and most importantly, remember you in their prayers; that is where you should be. If you have such persons' that do not inspire you in any shape or form, not trustworthy and all they do is have you consumed in negativity, PLEASE remove yourself from such as fast as you can. This is a HUGE lesson I had to learn the hard way. I am someone who gives people the benefit of the doubt. I try my best NOT to judge others because everyone has a reason for why they turn out as well as do/make the choices they make. Besides, my life isn't perfect and I'm still trying to better myself as an individual. You see, when you exist in the midst of negative people, you always think your values are so strong and you can never be influenced by their beliefs; whatever it is in that point of time. I speak from experience that this is not the case at all. Eventually, you begin to think the way they do, act in ways unfamiliar to you. You seriously turn into this negative person!!! I understand if you believe your values are too strong to be altered into a negative space but my question to you is (this is me thinking out loud), if your values and priorities are completely different from another persons', why become friends with them in the first place? In order to ELEVATE yourself sometimes you need to SEPARATE yourself from anything that brings nothing but negative energy to you.
Also, one has to be very prayerful. Pray to God to bring you people who would bring nothing but joy into your life even when times are hard. Pray to God to remove whoever is not meant to stay in your life. That being said, you should also be aware that even though a few people that come into your life do not remain, God put them in your life at that very time to teach you something significant about yourself. Remember, He will continue to put you in the same situation until you finally learn your lesson. Trust me when I say the MAN up there makes no mistakes. When you remove yourself from all the drama, don't even worry about them being mad or having their little feelings hurt. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and how they choose to feel. Right?! So let them be mad anyway! You are doing this for YOU and nobody else. I also read in this book, " The 15 invaluable laws of growth " as seen above that " the people you surround yourself with either determine your success or failure". WOW!!! I definitely had to take a step back and reevaluate the people around me and do some spring cleaning lol. It's crazy the amount of people I actually cut off.
Another way to grow is to work on your self esteem/confidence. Start by embracing your flaws/weaknesses. What are the qualities you like about yourself? It could be physical, it could be your personality. It can be anything really. Write down a list of things that you are good at and begin to nurture these positive things about yourself. You MUST see value in yourself to add value to yourself. You shouldn't become too concerned about what others might think of you. You should be more concerned about what you think of yourself. Of course, we are humans. Things get to us although we might act like we don't care. But all you need to do is not focus on the negativity. Trust me, you wont make progress if you're worried about such. Also, making goals and striving to achieve them can boost your confidence. Both books have brought me a sense of peace and it has seriously taught me to be patient with the process; through the good and bad times. I can go on and on but maybe I'll save that for another post. Focus on yourself, remove people of no use to you, surround yourself with those that truly wish you nothing but the best, be nice to people, help those who really need help, do not hold grudges because everything happens for a reason (let it go), let go of any BAD RELATIONSHIP(s), remain positive and be prayerful. My mum always tells me things happen in spirit before they happen in the physical. Sometimes things may or may not end up badly but believe me when I say it's for the best. God will work in your favor and things will start to fall into place.
My life hasn't been that easy when it comes to friendships this year and it took a toll on my self-confidence. Meaning I constantly kept thinking to myself, "why I'm I around such people, we don't have the same values, I'm not benefiting in any way but constant negativity, what would people think about me?" and of course people talk and spread rumors that don't even add up lol. My self confidence started going down the drain. I lost who I was and continued to surround myself with negative people.......However, I am more than HAPPY to say I have started back fresh with a better and smarter outlook on what's BEST for me. If you follow me on instagram or any of my other blogs or social networks, you would notice I cut my hair. I cut my hair for a reason. "A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life"- Coco Chanel. The BEST is yet to come for 2015!!! If you fall, just get right back up.
If I can, then you can as well....HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!